Read Me?

I read a blog the other day, a blogger I did not know. I was intrigued by the post because of a reference to Doris Day, who died a few weeks ago. I liked the post.

Fine.

This is what bloggers do: they read posts and like it if they find it interesting, or just to say- hey- I was here. No creeping.

Well, the next day or so, the blogger read my post (and you know my posts this week were about the spectacle called social media) so the blogger commented “Did you actually read my post?”

We all know this is a valid question. We all have the questionable likes. As told this week, the “like” is considered “important”, as is the “follow”.  The other day I had someone “like” about forty posts in 10 seconds. Wow. Speed reading record.

We also know that blogging is a game. I know some people are deeply offended when someone likes the post without reading it. I take it with a grain of salt: blogging is a microcosm of life. The same behavior I see on the mean streets of NYC are the same behaviors I see in blogworld. Maybe I’ve just become too accustomed to people just doing what gets them through the day.

But do I read every blog that I like?

The short answer is: Yes.

The long answer is more complicated.

I love books and cooking and organizing. Therefore I follow bloggers who write about these things. Do I read every word of a book review closely? No. I look at the star rating: the lower the star rating the more likely I am to read the review. I’m not a disaster queen: I find it’s very valuable to know the why as to why someone doesn’t like a book. People are usually more clear as to why they DO NOT like something. They have concrete reasons. When they like something, the reviews are more “It’s got a good beat. I can dance to it. I give it an 85.” I also like to comment on books that I’ve read- you know I’ll do anything to engage in a book discussion…

Recipes. I skim recipes. I like to cook and have a folder full of recipes on my TBC, but I skim recipes because sometimes there’s a new technique that I never thought about. Someone wrote about making pizza last night and they suggested leaving the dough out for a few hours before making. I only leave the dough out twenty minutes. Hmmmm. And sometimes people try things with food that is just so intriguing my brain goes into overdrive. (You guys all know that I’ll be having a discussion with someone in blogverse and the next thing you know I’m planning out a weeks worth of blogs- Like yesterday with Shalini and Jessica- it’s the same thought process)

Organizing tips and ideas. I skim these because it’s mainly been there, done that. I look for something that I haven’t tried, read before or thought of. But who am I kidding: organizing books and such are my porn.

If a blog is five thousand words, I’m probably skimming it. Even though as Earthwalking states that the average reader only reads 178 words, I’m usually good for 500-1000.

Speaking of Earthwalking, I read most of his posts twice this week. He’s on a roll with some deep thought and such, and his ideas are so profound I need to really look at it to get on his page. Great stuff.

I also admit that I often read while on mass transit, or when I am physically online at the market or such. These are times when you might not see a comment from me, or a really really badly worded one because I can’t type in those situations. I have learned to “Save” a post I want to comment on. FYI- best WordPress addition is the Save option. How deep is my reading on the fly? Depends on the post. The other day I was on line at Whole Foods and one of my blogger buddies wrote about her boyfriend cheating on her. I was in deep because the blog was so poignant and heartbreaking.

I read posts in reader, or I have been getting them in my notification field. I rarely open up the blog itself. I don’t get all the “blog stuff” that incorporates many websites. I like to read quickly and cleanly.

I do try to set aside blog reading time. I will set up an block of time strictly for reading blogs and drinking tea. I often eat breakfast or lunch at the same time. Sometimes I just don’t have the time to read. I catch up if I can, but often just can’t. That’s life. We do the best we can with what we have.

Do I remember every blog?

No.

Yes.

Here’s the thing: I actually have a decent memory, and I remember much of what I read. (makes me a great trivia partner) I just can’t always place what I know to where it came from. Sometimes I’ll get an idea from something I read, and I can’t remember what the source was. That’s the problem with reading so many varied things- they get jumbled. And I’m an analyzer: my brain takes in data, and then ideas spew out: ideas that are often only vaguely resembling the source material. I wish I knew a better way for my brain to catalogue info, but there you have it: even my brain has its limits.

So there you have it.

What are your blog reading habits?

Influence Me?

I’ve been thinking about blogs and followers and such (obviously, if you read yesterday) and of course, when you begin thinking about something, the world joins in and you notice things of a similar ilk.

Yesterday I read a story (Pure Wow or Buzzfeed, I don’t remember) about an 18 year old girl who has two million social media followers. 2 million. The platform was either Instagram or youtube, and yes I should read more carefully, but the particulars don’t really matter in this case. It’s all about the big picture.

So: 18 year old woman, 2 million media followers decides she wants to start a clothing line. Clothing company said they would do a test run before they committed full on. Sounds reasonable and intelligent business practice.

2 million followers.

2,000,000

Could not sell 36 pieces of clothing.

36

So what do we learn from this?

  1. Followers mean nothing if you don’t have a rapport. If takes less than a second to hit the like button, but if those followers don’t care about you….
  2. Just because you have followers doesn’t mean you are an influencer
  3. Taking cute pics of yourself in clothing does not mean that people are going to buy your clothes, especially if none of your pics are of you in these clothes
  4. People were probably not following you because of your sense of style, especially if your sense of style is exactly like every other teen girl who shops at Forever 21
  5. Followers are not customers
  6. Have a back up plan or strategy if your business venture fails.

Now on the upside, you know I am a big believer in going for your dreams and failing. Failing at something teaches you more than any book can. As does coming up with a plan and following through. Big kudos to this young woman for trying. I give her a big thumbs up on the try.

But…

Whether you are 18, 38 or 68, you have to take a social media profile with a grain of salt. Sure. Anyone, and I mean anyone, can have a huge social media following. There are all sorts of people who will follow you if you follow them, and then the number snowballs. A cute girl posting cute pics of herself will gain followers. I mean really…

Why do you need followers?

I know I like followers because the comments I receive make me think about things in ways I never imagined, I’m a questioner by nature, and I love when people give me different perspective about things I’ve been pondering. Blogging is an immediate responsive platform. I post, people comment. Brilliant.

But I don’t claim to be an influencer.

Influencer.

That’s the problem we’ve created with all this social media.

Everyone with a twitter, blog, or channel thinks they are an influencer.

Some people have profited from being social media influencers. I have been to youtube events with my daughter where she has paid money to listen to influencers talk about their lives. (OK- the swag is pretty good. She recently paid a very small amount to go to a get ready for prom event and the stuff she received in kind was way more than the cost of admission) She has bought clothing from youtubers clothing lines. I get that there can be a payoff.

But

Numbers wise: what’s the ratio of those who make money vs. those who do not?

Trying to be an influencer for a few years is not bad if you are the entrepreneurial type, but you still need a plan. That’s my problem. I think kids think it’s easy to make money via social media. And we all know that there is nothing easy about business. It’s the general mindset that is disturbing to me.

Nothing in life that is worthwhile is easy.

Spending more time on how the blog looks versus the content quality is going to bite you in the ass at some point. At some point, function must overtake form. Pretty opens the door, but quality seals the deal.

I applaud all those who take a leap of faith into the unknown in at attempt to start a business. But maybe read an accounting book so you understand a balance sheet, and perhaps an actual book on marketing. There are reasons why people have degrees in these subjects. You don’t have to go to college to be a success. But you do have to understand some basics.

And those numbers at the bottom of your social media. They really don’t matter. What matters is what you post above it.

Join Me on This Journey

A few weeks ago I heated up water so I could make some tea. I put on my as yet unhacked spotify and put my ipad on the little table next to my favorite reading chair. As the water heated up, I opened up my wordpress reader. I spotted a post by one of my blogging buddies, Andrea, and under her post was the Load More Post thing. I heard my kettle go off so I clicked on “load more” and I got up to make tea. When I got back, Andrea’s post had gone off into thin air.

I went into my “Manage” section and I found I had a lot of blogs that I follow. Ok- I know that. But I also realized that I didn’t recognize many of these blogs.

Hmmm

What’s a decluttering girl like me going to do?

I went into “manage” and I started clicking on sights. I clicked on every sight. Every one.

Yup.

Ok- first thing I noticed: I had a whole ton of blogs that hadn’t written anything since 2017, when I first started my blog. Ok- I know this sounds mean, but if they haven’t blogged in two years, well, I’m guessing there’s no shot they’re going to pick it up again. So out they go.

Then I noticed that I have a lot of blogs that I didn’t recognize, but they wrote often. How could this happen? How could they not show up in my reader, ever? Ok- we’ll table this for later. Just remind me. So I began reading some of them. Good stuff- so I kept them and now consider them blog friends.

The last phenomena I noticed were the amount of blogs that had three or less posts in total. Back when I started blogging, I would follow anyone that followed me. I immediately recognized the quid quo pro theory- to have followers you needed to follow. Ok fine. When I got more established, I also began following newbies: I knew how hard it was in the beginning to not have anyone read  my blog, and how thankful I was for those who gave me a chance. I was paying it forward a bit: I was willing to give a new blogger a chance to find their voice and support them.

Ergo- I followed a lot of bloggers that gave up real quick.

The bloggers that gave up quickly: I noticed a pattern among them. Almost every one of them used the phrase “Join me (us) on this journey”. I have now decided that those words are the bloggers kiss of death. If you write these words on your first blog you are not going to survive.

Why?

As I have not done a research study on this, I can only give you my humble (?) opinion. When you use the word “Join” you are specifically writing to an audience. You expect that people will listen.

Bad expectation.

Anyone who has blogged for awhile knows that you blog for yourself. You put the words on the page because you want to write every day in a public platform. Of course you want to be read, to have followers, to be liked, but that’s not the reason you blog. You blog because you have something to say, but the audience doesn’t matter as much as you putting words on the page and hitting publish.

The people who say “Join me” have set up very high expectations. The people who say “join me” are disappointed when 5,000 people don’t immediately follow them. And they stop writing. Probably because they weren’t writing for the right reason.

Blogging is hard, especially in the beginning. Advice to new bloggers: remember “Field of Dreams”? If you write, people will come…. you just need to be patient. Do you know how long it takes to clear a farm and make a baseball field?

But back to that other pesky question: how can I have blogs in my rotation that I never actually see? Here’s my other theory: you know how you’re out with your cell phone and you’re in a remote area? You know how your battery runs down because it keeps searching for signal? I think reader does the same thing: there are so many blogs that it keeps circling, expecting these dormant blogs to post, and then it gets trapped in some sort of loop. And when it’s in the loop, things get lost. And you miss posts.

So now my reader is lighter. I am seeing all my friends on a regular basis. Life is good in blogging world…

As long as you don’t want me to join you on this journey…

 

 

2 Year Blogiversary

Two years ago I signed up with WordPress!

Yay!

What have I learned?

  1. If WordPress is going to make a change, it will be two steps forward, one step back. Case in point, the new editor, which I’ve heard Zero people that like it…
  2. I still like writing off the top of my head: I still may think about a post overnight, in my sleep like some sort of weird osmosis thing, but I write the post in one take on my computer in the morning. I don’t know if this is good or bad.
  3. When I started this blog I was focusing solely on aging. As I started to write, I realized that I just see things differently now that I am older. The chronological age doesn’t bother me: it was just strange to see how my mindset changes/changed.
  4. This calendar year I changed up my blog writing a little. Instead of just writing whatever came to my head, I began to think of topics, and then write all week about one central idea. I realized how important comments are to my process and gained much of my insight and thoughts based on what others say. Seeing other peoples perspective has broadened my mind. I like having the ability to reflect and write about that during a week.
  5. Sometimes when I’m thinking about a certain weekly topic, ideas start to come to me from all around. I might hear something on GMA, then I might read a blog with something that oddly correlates, then something might happen in real life that backs it up.
  6. I have met amazing people during my blog journey- that’s been the most fun part of blogging- the connections
  7. I still do not know what a widget is
  8. I am not looking forward to the new editor
  9. I am looking forward to what comes next
  10. This week is a little bit of a compilation- I am going to follow up on some things I’ve been working on/talked about, and there is most probably going to be a guest post from my daughter on Friday

Thanks to all of you who read, listen to and challenge me on a daily basis!!

500 Posts!

Woo Hoo! Yesterday I hit 500 posts!!
It’s a little bit shocking actually, to have opened up this laptop 500 times with the intent to write 500-1000 words (though Earthwalking says the average person only reads 178) and share those words with the world. And that’s what’s still my favorite part still is: meeting and interacting with people from all over- who are different in all sorts of ways, yet still, oddly alike. How many of you thought you would read the words of a sarcastic, fast writing, slightly uptight New Yorker who enjoys opera and fast casual food? Hmmm- I don’t see many hands raised….
I still don’t like writing titles. I sort of cheated today- I went with the obvious headline, but for the most part, that title space crushes me. My favorite thing is when I post a post and forget to title it. I realize it immediately after I hit send (or when someone likes it and it shows up on my feed that they liked nothing), but then I panic and come up with the stupidest title ever….
I’ve also found that blogs that I loved (where I think I’m being clever) are not as popular as the blogs where I am completely open on the page. I guess everyone likes to see that others have the same problems and issues, that they are not alone, that at least one other person in the world shares the same exact struggle. I guess that’s why we blog- to share our ups and downs, our positives and negatives. The things we are most proud of, and the things we regret…
I wrote a blog a few months ago about whether or not men and women can be friends- to which one of my friends emailed me and said ‘Well- you certainly opened up a big old can of worms with this one”. I admit- I love when people become fully vested in what I write. I love when I stir up emotion and people can’t help but giving their opinion, and the interaction amongst peers goes crazy (it’s as close to viral as I’ll ever get…) This is what blogging is supposed to be- everyone sharing without being mean or hostile. Everyone listening and contributing.
I still have my issues with wp, and apparently they’re about to make changes to the editor. yay. That should be a steep learning curve. I also found that when you follow someone now you have the ability to see their post in notifications feed. At first I thought this would be annoying, but it’s actually a pretty good way to keep track of blogs. So, if you see I’ve followed you now, it’s because I’m trying to have you appear in my feed.
I took a break recently because I needed to recharge my battery. I’m happy to say I’m at about 95%. I still love blogging but I’ve hit the infamous 18 month wall….I think I’m going to change the format a bit, and add some new social media outlets. I feel it’s time to expand my blogging domain in my attempt at world domination…Over 50’s unite….
But for today, I thank you for your love and support of both my blog, and of me personally. Without you all this wouldn’t be half as much fun!
To infinity and beyond……….

Also- I apologize if this is a duplicate post- had tremendous publishing issues this morning

500 Posts!!

Woo Hoo!  Yesterday I hit 500 posts!!

It’s a little bit shocking actually, to have opened up this laptop 500 times with the intent to write 500-1000 words (though Earthwalking says the average person only reads 178) and share those words with the world. And that’s what’s still my favorite part still is: meeting and interacting with people from all over- who are different in all sorts of ways, yet still, oddly alike.  How many of you thought you would read the words of a sarcastic, fast writing, slightly uptight New Yorker who enjoys opera and fast casual food? Hmmm- I don’t see many hands raised….

I still don’t like writing titles.  I sort of cheated today- I went with the obvious headline, but for the most part, that title space crushes me.  My favorite thing is when I post a post and forget to title it.  I realize it immediately after I hit send (or when someone likes it and it shows up on my feed that they liked nothing), but then I panic and come up with the stupidest title ever….

I’ve also found that blogs that I loved (where I think I’m being clever) are not as popular as the blogs where I am completely open on the page. I guess everyone likes to see that others have the same problems and issues, that they are not alone, that at least one other person in the world shares the same exact struggle. I guess that’s why we blog- to share our ups and downs, our positives and negatives.  The things we are most proud of, and the things we regret…

I wrote a blog a few months ago about whether or not men and women can be friends- to which one of my friends emailed me and said ‘Well- you certainly opened up a big old can of worms with this one”. I admit- I love when people become fully vested in what I write.  I love when I stir up emotion and people can’t help but giving their opinion, and the interaction amongst peers goes crazy (it’s as close to viral as I’ll ever get…) This is what blogging is supposed to be- everyone sharing without being mean or hostile.  Everyone listening and contributing.

I still have my issues with wp, and apparently they’re about to make changes to the editor.  yay. That should be a steep learning curve.  I also found that when you follow someone now you have the ability to see their post in notifications feed.  At first I thought this would be annoying, but it’s actually a pretty good way to keep track of blogs. So, if you see I’ve followed you now, it’s because I’m trying to have you appear in my feed.

I took a break recently because I needed to recharge my battery.  I’m happy to say I’m at about 95%. I still love blogging but I’ve hit the infamous 18 month wall….I think I’m going to change the format a bit, and add some new social media outlets. I feel it’s time to expand my blogging domain in my attempt at world domination…Over 50’s unite….

But for today, I thank you for your love and support of both my blog, and of me personally. Without you all this wouldn’t be half as much fun!

To infinity and beyond……….

Why We Blog

I haven’t done a blog about blogging in awhile…figured you missed them…

What is the  difference between writing a blog and writing an article for a magazine or newspaper? Interaction between writer and reader. I never comment on things I read in the Times or Real Simple- I read, think, and discard.  But blogs…sometimes I feel so compelled I actually add my own two cents into the little box at the bottom of the page. And sometimes, others are compelled to leave their opinion on mine.  In fact, I often ask questions of my readers so that they feel compelled to directly speak to me. I like the interaction.  I thrive on the interaction.  The interaction is why I blog.

Case in point- my blog last Wednesday had over 100 comments.  Granted, half of them were my responses, but still….that’s a lot of time that people took out of their day to join in a discussion.

I love that.

I love the idea of people from all walks of life discussing an issue that is universally relatable.  We all got to hear differing view points and think about aspects that we had never previously considered. It was a great thinking and learning moment for anyone who took part. And isn’t that what life is? Thinking and learning something new every day? (though, to be fair, one of my blog friends recently wrote that she is tired of learning something new every day- she just wants to experience something new every day…but that’s a whole different thing)

Blogger Rachel McAlpine (Write into Life) recently did a poll of older bloggers, asking why they blogged and such.  It was a very informative study about what goes on in our minds, and Rachel is an amazing writer and blogger. But, there was one comment that sort of bothered me – One responder said that they only wrote a blog, that they didn’t read blogs of others.  OK- I understand the time commitment it takes to follow and comment on blogs.  I know that I have days where I can’t read at all, days when I choose between reading 20 and not commenting, or reading 10 and commenting. But I try to stay in the game.  Not out of obligation, but because blogging works best when there is give and take- when someone is not preaching, but rather opening up the forum for debate. That is what blogging is to me.

And honestly- I get so many ideas for blogs from comments that I receive. Last month I asked the question- should you tell someone when they don’t look their best. Since then I have written two follow ups, with more to come.  There were so many viewpoints I had never considered, and I’m finding it fascinating that there are so many ways to look at one question.  Every comment that I read makes me think of something else, makes me ask another question, let’s me change the variable just a little bit. I know this is what I envisioned when I began blogging- expansion of thoughts and ideas.  Interaction of people who might never have met under conventional circumstances.  Opening up the mind to possibilities that one never knew existed.

So here’s the question for today: Do you like the interaction between blogger and reader?  Does the interaction make blogging better for you, or does it make it worse? Why?

And of course- Why do you blog?

Can You Help?

Last month I received an email in my Waking contact gmail account.  The writer said something along the lines of- “Hi LA.  Love your blog.  It’s so good. You’re so successful. Can you give me tips on how to write?”

I stopped, I looked around my living room, and then back at my ipad screen.  This was immediately followed by my best DeNiro/Taxi Driver “You talking to me?” which was followed by “What? I don’t know how to write a blog.  I just throw my thoughts on a page.”

And when you think about it- how do you teach someone how to write a blog?  How do you write a blog? And that’s basically what I said to Midlife- I don’t know how- I just do.

But since that fateful day when I realized someone might actually want my opinion (as opposed to my daughter and husband), I have tried to think about my writing process.  So here goes- the waking formula for writing:

E=MC²

E= Essence.  Plain and simple, you must have a topic.   What do you want to write about?  What do you want to say? Without a topic you are trying to do the blog equivalent of “Seinfeld”.  How many successful shows are there about nothing?  How many successful blogs are there about nothing?  My  overall theme is how age has shaped my thinking process.  My topics are things I actually think about.  And think about.  And analyze.  So the first thing you must have before you open laptop, tablet or phone is a topic/idea. Seriously- do not open up your writing section unless you know what you want to write about.  Otherwise it’s just a really frustrating time staring at the blank screen and blinking cursor.

M=Mode.  How are you going to write about a particular topic.  Funny?  Intelligent? Poignant? In your face? Your style, or voice is extremely important- it’s what sets you apart from other writers.  As people tell students about writing their college essays: throw a pile of blogs on the floor- if people can tell which one is yours by style alone, then you’ve done your job. There are probably only four stories out there in the world: man/woman v nature, man/woman, self and machine. How you tell that story is the difference.

C²=Content- You can’t be style without substance: your words must back up your idea. What are the actual ideas that are going to back up what you are setting out to do.  They don’t have to be facts, but they must be supporting statements that make you seem like you know what you are talking about.  And, to be fair, it’s your topic that you chose to write about.  You should have an idea as to why you chose the topic and what you want to say about it. Try to stick to the topic.  I tend to meander- I have to reign myself in every day.  But seriously- keep the same thread running through your blog from start to finish. Stay on point.

There it is: Take a hypothesis, back it up, write about it in your own individual way.

Simple.

What’s that you say?  Not that simple?

Well- here’s the thing: Nothing is simple.  Nothing is easy.  If you want to write, you sit down and write.  Sometimes it’s good, often it’s bad.  But does it matter?  Isn’t just putting words on the page and hitting publish a success? That’s my theory every day.  Every time I come up with an idea, write 500 – 1000 words and hit the blue publish button I consider it a success.  So maybe my mindset is my greatest asset- maybe one person out there thinks I’m a good blogger because I have the guts to hit “Publish” every day, no matter what I’ve put on the page.

Which is what I’m about to do now…

 

 

 

The Fork in the Road

A few weeks ago I had a crisis of faith, of sorts: I didn’t know if I wanted to continue blogging.  I hit a point where I sat down, looked at my computer and thought “Why?”  Why am I doing this?  Where’s the satisfaction? Am I getting what I want/need out of this time expenditure?

I immediately thought back to a statistic that I had read: average blogger life is 18 months. I was only at a year: was I below average?  The competitive part of me could only think about how I only needed to blog for six more months and then I would be “above average”.  But was that a good enough reason to continue blogging?  To beat a statistic that I’m not even sure of its validity?

I told my friend SF that I wasn’t sure what I was doing.  I felt like the words pouring out of me were meaningless.  Did it matter what I said?  Was anyone really listening to what I was trying to say?  I went to the dark side of the writing – the side that questions the very decision to put words on paper.  Did my writing matter?

I didn’t blog for two days.

Then a funny thing happened.  I’m sure my friends K and G would say there was some sort of cosmic significance here at work.  I ran into an old friend that I hadn’t spoken to for awhile.  While  playing catch up 20 questions, I explained my blog.  And in explaining my blog, I sort of remembered all the things I loved about writing every day.  How much I enjoyed interacting with all my blog friends.  How much joy I got out of forming an idea and thinking of a way to put it on paper, and then sending those thoughts to the whole internet world wide thing.

As K and G would say, you put the question out there, and then the answer comes to you.

So, I’m going to continue blogging.  I going to continue to think about topics and how to formulate them.  I’m going to keep thinking about, well, lets go with everything, cause I never know what is going to pop into my head on any given day.  But, as we’re always evolving, things may change.  I know my summer blogs will change a bit just due to time away and such. And maybe the fall will usher in new ways of doing things so I can keep my mind fresh.  But for now, I’m going to get up in the morning, feed the pets, go to the gym, and write my blog.

Thanks for listening.

 

Sorry- It’s About Blogging

I read and subscribe to a lot of blogs.  This has been an unexpected pleasure of becoming a blogger- meeting people from all over the world. A           nd I enjoy reading blogs, but sometimes it gets hard, like when I was sick.  I wasn’t really reading much, except for a few light reads, so I’m playing catch up on blog reading.

Boy- WordPress does not make it easy to catch up on blogs.  Reader doesn’t include all the posts you subscribe to on a good day, much less weeks.  So I read some blogs on email (trust me- this is not a good method for me.  I currently have 65m unopened emails in my waking account.  I’m going to have to open up an email for people who are trying to reach me directly- sorry to all of you who have tried to reach me and have not received an answer) I tried searching blog names and reading blogs that way.  Again, this was not easy because you really need to have exact blog name and such in order to find it.  This was frustrating- I mean G Sandwich shouldn’t be that hard to search for…Then, if someone liked or commented on my blog, I would go back to look at their posts that way.  This was probably the best way to scroll the archives, except for the amount of times I unfollowed someone accidentally because I hit the unfollow button instead of the blog name.  Then, because it’s WordPress, I would have trouble refollowing them.  Sorry Muddling and Nana for the confusion, but I finally got you guys back on track. Side note: you have no idea how many times I read Part 6 before I read parts 1-5…

I also have this weird “fairness” thing going on in my head:  I would only read one blog from one reader at a time.  I thought it was “fair” to try to read as many of my friends as possible.  This is one of my OCD type tendencies- to get locked into a particular mindset.

But lets skip to another blog aspect: people that want you to read their blogs and follow them.  I used to do the quid pro quo thing when it came to blog follow: if someone followed me, I followed them.  I remember what it was like to be a beginning blogger and not have anyone following me- I’m willing to give anyone a chance. But then I realized that many of these blogs would get me to follow them and then unfollow me.  I mean really.  Not everyone can be as stupid as I am and keep unfollowing people as I try to read them.  So I stopped following people blindly.

Skipping again.  What about the different types of people that follow your blog?  Now, as I’m a “middle aged”, married Mom who wants to be a writer, i get all of the people that check off at least one of those boxes.  But as I am more than that, I understand followers that are cooks, organized, minimalist, movie fans, readers, photographers- because theses are all my hobbies.  And honestly, if a twenty something guy from India wants to follow me- well fine.  Maybe he has some of my interests.  But recently, a blog promoting Pilipino Women as being the best brides found it’s way to my blog.  They liked my post  about my new planner and chose to follow me.  Now, I guess if you’re in the mail order bride business you need a good planner, but I don’t know if you need to follow me, especially with my views on relationships…

And them there’s everyone’s favorite: the people who add to your comments- “Please follow me at http://www.ithinkthisisthebestwaytoattractfollowers.wordpress.com”.  For the record, if one of you reads this post before you like it and add this message, I will report you as spam if you do this to me, because as far as I’m concerned, this is SPAM.  You neither like me or my post- Do you know how to get followers?  Write well.  End of story.

Take aways?

  1. I’m still catching up on Don’t feel bad if I missed something.  I’m getting there.
  2. Don’t follow me and them unfollow me
  3. Don’t ask me to read your blog without giving me a compelling reason for me to read it