500 Posts!

Woo Hoo! Yesterday I hit 500 posts!!
It’s a little bit shocking actually, to have opened up this laptop 500 times with the intent to write 500-1000 words (though Earthwalking says the average person only reads 178) and share those words with the world. And that’s what’s still my favorite part still is: meeting and interacting with people from all over- who are different in all sorts of ways, yet still, oddly alike. How many of you thought you would read the words of a sarcastic, fast writing, slightly uptight New Yorker who enjoys opera and fast casual food? Hmmm- I don’t see many hands raised….
I still don’t like writing titles. I sort of cheated today- I went with the obvious headline, but for the most part, that title space crushes me. My favorite thing is when I post a post and forget to title it. I realize it immediately after I hit send (or when someone likes it and it shows up on my feed that they liked nothing), but then I panic and come up with the stupidest title ever….
I’ve also found that blogs that I loved (where I think I’m being clever) are not as popular as the blogs where I am completely open on the page. I guess everyone likes to see that others have the same problems and issues, that they are not alone, that at least one other person in the world shares the same exact struggle. I guess that’s why we blog- to share our ups and downs, our positives and negatives. The things we are most proud of, and the things we regret…
I wrote a blog a few months ago about whether or not men and women can be friends- to which one of my friends emailed me and said ‘Well- you certainly opened up a big old can of worms with this one”. I admit- I love when people become fully vested in what I write. I love when I stir up emotion and people can’t help but giving their opinion, and the interaction amongst peers goes crazy (it’s as close to viral as I’ll ever get…) This is what blogging is supposed to be- everyone sharing without being mean or hostile. Everyone listening and contributing.
I still have my issues with wp, and apparently they’re about to make changes to the editor. yay. That should be a steep learning curve. I also found that when you follow someone now you have the ability to see their post in notifications feed. At first I thought this would be annoying, but it’s actually a pretty good way to keep track of blogs. So, if you see I’ve followed you now, it’s because I’m trying to have you appear in my feed.
I took a break recently because I needed to recharge my battery. I’m happy to say I’m at about 95%. I still love blogging but I’ve hit the infamous 18 month wall….I think I’m going to change the format a bit, and add some new social media outlets. I feel it’s time to expand my blogging domain in my attempt at world domination…Over 50’s unite….
But for today, I thank you for your love and support of both my blog, and of me personally. Without you all this wouldn’t be half as much fun!
To infinity and beyond……….

Also- I apologize if this is a duplicate post- had tremendous publishing issues this morning

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500 Posts!!

Woo Hoo!  Yesterday I hit 500 posts!!

It’s a little bit shocking actually, to have opened up this laptop 500 times with the intent to write 500-1000 words (though Earthwalking says the average person only reads 178) and share those words with the world. And that’s what’s still my favorite part still is: meeting and interacting with people from all over- who are different in all sorts of ways, yet still, oddly alike.  How many of you thought you would read the words of a sarcastic, fast writing, slightly uptight New Yorker who enjoys opera and fast casual food? Hmmm- I don’t see many hands raised….

I still don’t like writing titles.  I sort of cheated today- I went with the obvious headline, but for the most part, that title space crushes me.  My favorite thing is when I post a post and forget to title it.  I realize it immediately after I hit send (or when someone likes it and it shows up on my feed that they liked nothing), but then I panic and come up with the stupidest title ever….

I’ve also found that blogs that I loved (where I think I’m being clever) are not as popular as the blogs where I am completely open on the page. I guess everyone likes to see that others have the same problems and issues, that they are not alone, that at least one other person in the world shares the same exact struggle. I guess that’s why we blog- to share our ups and downs, our positives and negatives.  The things we are most proud of, and the things we regret…

I wrote a blog a few months ago about whether or not men and women can be friends- to which one of my friends emailed me and said ‘Well- you certainly opened up a big old can of worms with this one”. I admit- I love when people become fully vested in what I write.  I love when I stir up emotion and people can’t help but giving their opinion, and the interaction amongst peers goes crazy (it’s as close to viral as I’ll ever get…) This is what blogging is supposed to be- everyone sharing without being mean or hostile.  Everyone listening and contributing.

I still have my issues with wp, and apparently they’re about to make changes to the editor.  yay. That should be a steep learning curve.  I also found that when you follow someone now you have the ability to see their post in notifications feed.  At first I thought this would be annoying, but it’s actually a pretty good way to keep track of blogs. So, if you see I’ve followed you now, it’s because I’m trying to have you appear in my feed.

I took a break recently because I needed to recharge my battery.  I’m happy to say I’m at about 95%. I still love blogging but I’ve hit the infamous 18 month wall….I think I’m going to change the format a bit, and add some new social media outlets. I feel it’s time to expand my blogging domain in my attempt at world domination…Over 50’s unite….

But for today, I thank you for your love and support of both my blog, and of me personally. Without you all this wouldn’t be half as much fun!

To infinity and beyond……….

Pre Season

One month from now, most of you will be giving up on your New Years resolutions. Seriously- think about it: On January first, the world is your oyster.  You are going to lose weight, drink less, exercise more, organize your closet, learn Mandarin…whatever.  And then, all of a sudden it’s December fourth and you’re done.

How do you change that mindset?

Think of it like this: do athletes just show up at the field/arena/stadium and play? Or do they start training weeks earlier?

Yeah….weeks earlier.  So when the season starts they are warmed up and ready and have a game plan.

So think of December as your pre season to New Years Resolutions.

  1. What? Pick one resolution (I call them goals) Think about it- It’s better to succeed at one then fail at four.
  2. Why? Make sure you want to change or resolve for the correct reasons (do you want to lose weight because you want to feel better, or because you think you will attract a partner if you’re thinner?)
  3. Who? Find a buddy to talk to about your resolution, or an expert that will give you logical advice.  Think about Doctors, trainers and teachers that can help you succeed.
  4. Where? Figure out if you need a place to help your goal.  Gym? Dedicated writing area? I know people who fail at writing goals because they don’t have a place to write that makes them feel comfortable to be creative.
  5. How? This is the big one.  How are you going to accomplish your resolution? Here’s my one cent: Make a plan. Figure out what tools you need. Look to the internet for advice (this is the good thing about the net- the plethora of information available at your fingertips) Write out the steps and put them in your planner (you know my secret goal is to get all of you to use a planner)
  6. When? When things get tough, when things don’t go the exact way you want (your triceps are still wiggly) what will be your motivation to get to the next step?

You don’t have to resolve to do anything- but let’s face it: most of us do. So if you’re going to set up a goal for 2019, you might as well prepare yourself the best you can. You can’t just wake up on January first and know how you’re going to learn Mandarin. Make it that January first starts your new timeline.  January One is the day you do a duolingo that you have already registered for.

Prep work.  It’s a good thing. It can help you get to where you are going.

 

More Thoughts on Gifts

Last week I told you all about how I hate receiving gifts.  But, people are determined to gift you whether you like it or not. So, I began to think about how my daughter would try to figure out what to get me, and I immediately thought- “Oh- she’ll look in the Amazon cart”.  Every time I see a product that is interesting, I throw it on the Amazon list.  I rarely purchase these items (I’m not a big impulse shopper) but these are obviously things that interest me. I decided to see what was actually in my Amazon cart to get an idea of what my daughter might purchase for me.

  1. Velvet jogging pants (these looked really comfortable for hanging out at home)
  2. Art page a day Gallery Calendar (I am actually going to buy this- I’m just waiting for the inevitable calendar price drop)
  3. Soft Warm Hooded Scarf Headscarf Neckwarmer Hoodie- (I know you’re all wondering what this is…I hate hats, and I also hate being cold. Also, my neck is super sensitive so I need it to be covered when I’m outside during the winter.  A hooded scarf combines a head covering and a scarf.  It’s actually perfect for me.  Again, I’m going to actually purchase this item but I’m deciding on black or grey)
  4. “The Curated Closet: A Simple System for Discovering your Personal Style and Building Your Dream Wardrobe”- (I admit- this screams “Buy Me”)
  5. Women’s Terry Cloth Robe Turkish Cotton (OK- this would be a great gift for me)
  6. UGG Sheepskin Shoe Insole (you get the whole I don’t like cold thing)
  7. Bluetooth Ear Buds (for someone who listens to as much music as I do, it is shocking that I do not own wireless ear buds)
  8. Brown Sugar Bear sugar softener (I hate when the brown sugar gets hard)
  9. DeskCycle Desk Exercise Bike Pedal (because when I’m writing I am so going to pedal under my desk…)
  10. Royal Jade Roller Massager (anything for beauty…)
  11. DecoBros Wire Fruit Tree Bowl with Banana Hanger (cause we all need a banana hanger)
  12. Prep Solutions Brown Sugar Keeper ( I REALLY have a brown sugar issue)
  13. Pro Stretch Calf Stretcher (because I need to stretch my calves after all my desk biking)

After actually looking at my list, I realize that I would be happy to receive any of them as gifts.  I know they mainly verge on the edge of practical, but maybe I see a little whimsy (one of the brown sugar things is a cute little bear…)

Do you keep things in your cart that you think about buying? What kind of things would I find in your cart?

My Week in Review December 2, 2018

December?  How did that happen?

  1. To Watch- “Dirty John” on Bravo. I am totally creeped out…in a good way…
  2. To ReRead- “Great Expectations” by Dickens (book club)- FYI- hated it as much now as when I first read it
  3. To Listen- My holiday song earworm is presently “All I Want for Christmas is You” Mariah Carey
  4. To Watch: “Green Book” in theaters. Best movie I saw this year.
  5. To Wander: Union Square Holiday Pop up Market- I love these little pop up markets because it gives artisans the ability to display their product. I just wish the aisles were wider at this one
  6. To Reread- “The Help” (book club) Still love this book…
  7. To Listen- I just put this weeks playlist in shuffle, and the first five songs that came up are: Harpsichord Concerto Op. 40:2 Vivace Gorecki (Mahan Esfahani), “I Put a Spell on You” by Annie Lennox, “Man’s Man” by Elle King, “The Boy” Shannon and the Clams, “Somebody to Love” Queen
  8. To Eat- I tried this thing called Bocce Bread (Bocce pop up Union Square) It’s basically baked pizza dough (imagine a big pizza crust bubble) and they serve it with herbed whipped ricotta. It was simple and delicious
  9. To Visit- Museum of Modern Art NYC- Bruce Nauman Disappearing Acts, Charles White A restrospective,  Honestly- I was underwhelmed by these exhibits…
  10. Parent Teacher Conferences- I don’t know why I went this year.  It was basically jockeying for a spot to be told my daughter is doing great- and really, her first marking period grades were sent to her first choice college last week, so really, there’s nothing left for me at high school
  11. Online holiday shopping- or basically looking at my daughters list and purchasing things…but really…did you ever read Buzzfeed gift suggestions? Some of them are wild….

Wishing you all a good week!!

Gratitude Saturday

I’m trying to remember to focus on what is good in my life, so on Saturdays, I think about the little things and the big things that got me through the week, and through life.  Some weeks are easier than others.

  1. George Bush- RIP
  2. My Daughter’s first marking period grades
  3. Attending my last parent teacher conference- it went well and I never have to go to one again!
  4. My writing group- they motivate me and make me better in all ways
  5. free shipping
  6. Looking for an item for my daughter and realizing they have one left and it’s in her size
  7. Lord and Taylor and all the years we went to visit their Christmas Windows- (they are about to close the Fifth Avenue NYC location)
  8. Really good cry
  9. nail file
  10. Finding the perfect song to suit your mood
  11. The support of my blog friends and my other friends- Thank you

Gifting

Many of you know I have a love/hate relationship with gifts: love to give them, hate to receive them. So this time of year is always a challenge. Inevitably, my daughter will ask: What do you want for holidays? And I will inevitably answer: Nothing thanks.  I have everything I need.

I know this is not really a good answer.  We give gifts because we love and want to show that love.  But I am a horrible gift recipient.  I have very particular taste, and I hate waste.  The thought of getting a gift and giving it to the thrift shop the next day does not fill me with glee.  I once broke up with a guy because he bought me something and was upset that I didn’t jump up and down or cry upon receipt. Truth is, it was a piece of jewelry that was expensive but gaudy and not my style.  He thought I should love it because he gave it to me.  I thought he was not the right person for me.

Conversely, my Father is not a gift giver.  My Mom always takes care of that (to excess I might add) But when I turned 50 he gave me a statue of David Wright (my Father and I bond over a love of the Mets,  He took me to my first game when I was four and it was love at that diamond for sure) As my Father is not a gift giver, this statue means a great deal to me. It is special because it shows our connection and what makes my relationship with my Father special.  This is how I think all gifts should be: to show the unique and special nature of two people.

Around my vanity I have all the notes that my daughter has written me. No monetary gift can replace the value of these notes- they are the greatest things I have ever received and I treasure them.

Yesterday, one of my writing friends gave me a pencil holder that said “Write” on it. I love it because it is simple yet perfect. Again, it solidifies our connection and what makes it special. And hey- practical!  She knows I edit in pencil and always have them handy!!

So when asked what I want for a gift- I have no clear answer.  Sure, I always want a gift card for a massage, or tickets to something. I’m an experience type of person. But mostly, I want something that shows that the person giving me the gift knows who I am.  Knows that expensive doesn’t mean that I will love it, or that price makes it “better”.  Knows that I value function over form. Knows that I value the thought above all else.

 

 

A Tale of the Opinion

Once upon a time there was a Lord and a Lady (well- she was a lady most of the time anyway) One day the Lord said “I’m not sure what to do about this situation. What is your opinion?” He told the lady the two choices before him, and gave the pertinent details and facts.

When the Lord finished, he looked at the lady and said “What do you think?”

And the lady responded quickly.  She rather decidedly gave her opinion, stating her reasons why unequivocally one choice was better than the other.  She did not hesitate and was quite strong in her reasons for one choice over the other. “Choice A” she said.

Of course, the Lord chose choice B.

Which made the Lady mad.  And she told this to the Lord.

The Lord and the Lady got into a disagreement, and trust me- this is where the term Lady was clearly a debatable choice of word. Lady slept on the couch that night because if she was closer to him she may have strangled him in his sleep.

The Lord said- “Didn’t you see I was leaning towards choice B? You’re supposed to know that.”

To which Lady replied “Then don’t present it to me as asking my opinion.  Tell me that’s what you want to do. If it means that much to you don’t give me an option.  You know I’m going to get mad if you ask my advice and then do the opposite of what I told you.”

Could the Lord and Lady have handled this situation better? Of course. We are always learning how to deal with others, how to communicate out wants and needs more effectively. And this is a never ending process.  No one is perfect at relationships, or compromise or communication.

So here’s the moral of this tale. If you are asking someone which road you should travel, ask yourself why you need to ask this question. Why do you need someone else’s support on something, especially if you know you are leaning 80% towards one direction? What are you really asking with questions like this?

FYI- My daughter just finished her section on Canterbury Tales, so I’ve been thinking of things from that perspective.  Just be glad I didn’t have time to do iambic pentameter or rhyming couplets…And be prepared: They just started “Hamlet”….

 

 

 

 

Endings vs Beginnings

Sometimes I get inside my head and I can’t get out. I get obsesses with a particular train of thought and it keeps spiraling around my brain. My attempt today is to unravel the spiral.

Last month or so, we found out that my Father has prostate cancer. (Note to my IRL friends who are friends with my Mom on Facebook- don’t talk to her about it because my Father doesn’t want to be the center of attention….)

Now the cancer itself is not going to kill my Father.  As the Doctor put it “he might die with prostate cancer, but not of it.” Next week he starts his radiation treatment. But let’s face facts: he’s 80, with diabetes and a bad heart. And his already depleted body is about to be hit with more stuff.

I know I see the writing on the wall…

Which has been in my head.

How do you come to terms with the death of a parent?

Most of my friends have lost their Fathers in the past ten years. I know this is the whole circle of life thing.  But knowing it’s inevitable and seeing the inevitability are two different things. How do you deal with endings?

And my daughter is about to go off to college. Another ending.

Yup.  My brain got caught up in a downward cycle of things ending. I became hyper focused on endings.

This is not a good thing for your brain.

So- I realized that I have to become focused on beginnings

How do I do that?

I have no idea.

So here’s the plan.  Along with my super creative musings about all things, I am also going to write about beginnings.  I am going to try to look at things positively as often as possible, (don’t worry- there will still be some rants and complaints in here.) Today starts my new beginning of thinking about what the future holds…..

on another note- I know I had problems with my comment section yesterday.  I don’t know why this is happening, but I am going to try to resolve it.

Holiday Bucket List 2018

Well- you knew this was coming…For my purposes, the holiday season is defined as the day after Thanksgiving up till New Years

  1. One holiday themed live show
  2. Look at holiday decorations on 5th and 6th Avenue in midtown Manhattan
  3. See the tree at the Metropolitan Museum
  4. Bake cookies
  5. Gingerbread (I love gingerbread in all forms)
  6. Watch five holiday themed movies
  7. Wrap all the gifts I buy (or actually put them in gift bags)
  8. See all my New York friends (but I mean the real friends- not the acquaintances)
  9. Send out holiday cards
  10. Not get mad at family events
  11. Make up a naughty and nice list
  12. Try to get my name off naughty list…

Here’s the thing about the holiday season: I love it.  I love this time of year.  But- I also feel overwhelmed this time of year.  There are so many things I want to do, but time definitely gets away from me- so I make a list of things I will be mad if I don’t do.  And then I write them in my calendar.  I order the holiday cards the day after Thanksgiving (sales) and then I make appointments to address them. I try to do anything I can to not feel stressed.  We’ll see how it works out this year.