If you were to write a dating profile today…how authentic would you be?
Would you admit your age?
How would you describe your body?
I could almost end the post here, let you ruminate on how your dating profile would look…but this is only 45 words, so let’s continue….
Recently blog friend Janie talked about going on internet dates, and by this I mean in real life dates with someone she met on a dating website. She wondered aloud how similar the profile would be to the actual person who would sit across from her at Starbucks later that week… I told her that everyone lies on those things: I have no internet dating experience but enough friends to have an inkling of what you see and what you get. (I also watched Dirty John, but that’s a whole other thing…)
So would you lie? Stretch the truth? Embellish?
What’s the socially acceptable limit you can push a dating profile so that it’s mainly true?
How authentic would you be on a dating app?
If I were to write one (and every time my husband doesn’t put something back where it belongs I get a step closer…) would I write:
Short, formerly attractive chunky woman seeks someone who is perfectly acceptable of a menopausal 55 year old and all she has to offer. Lives off lists and schedules. Must watch movies, and must know who Dorian Grey is if asked. Likes to cook but hates cleaning up after. Very chatty and probably won’t let you get a word in.
Curvy yet petite woman of a certain age seeks man who enjoys culture, fine food, and simple walks through nature. The conversation would flow as we would never lack for things to discuss. Hoping for someone to plan a future with, one step at a time.
Mrs. Robinson has nothing on me. I walk the walk and talk the talk. You will always know exactly what is going to happen when I’m around. Lush and sensual and waiting to be pleased…are you game?
So which profile is the most accurate? We won’t ask which one is the best because clearly I have NO IDEA how to write a dating profile, but you get the gist. When you are trying to impress someone, how authentic are you? Which type of ad would I be most likely to use? Which type of ad would secure me a date?
What is the line between showing who you are authentically versus highlighting your strengths and downplaying your weaknesses?
I am chatty. Do I include that in my profile? If I omit it, is it lying? You would think that I would search out someone who values loquaciousness, sees it as an asset not a liability. But how many guys want a woman who TALKS ALL THE TIME? Who has an OPINION ON EVERYTHING? If I’m authentic, I include these factoids. If I want a date however, do I?
Here’s your homework. Write a dating (friendship) profile. How authentic is your blurb?
and the larger question:
Does it matter if you are authentic on a profile?