This week I’ve been examining situations that I’ve been recently involved in, and how I’m handling them. I am trying to be less angry, more tolerant, and let go of things.
My Father in law was over last month. We were having a conversation (OK- I was trying to talk about a subject that he brought up. He was spouting things he’d heard on the news that did not make any sense in the context to which he was speaking)
He mentioned a story that had been on the news (quasi political) and I gave my opinion. He thought my opinion was ridiculous. I made clear, lucid points. He tried to argue but failed.
A week or so later, my Husband was on the phone with him. FIL said to him “Wow. Your wife has certainly become a _____________ . How can you deal with her?”
Label. He labeled me. (for the record, a label is when someone groups you into a category based on something you say. Name calling is specifically being called a name)
Needless to say, I was pissed off. First, I had totally forgotten about the incident, but FIL was still seething enough to talk to my husband about it. Second, did my Husband need to relate the story to me? I’m iffy on this: on one hand I like when my Husband is open with me, while on the other hand, his telling me only made me mad.
I’m still annoyed.
I know that being annoyed about this incident is not good. I know I’m wasting precious emotional energy on something stupid. Rationally I know these things. But…
I’m having trouble getting past incidents when someone has really pushed my buttons. I need to come up with some sort of ritual to practice when I get into a situation where I’m irrationally perturbed, because it doesn’t appear as if people are going to get easier to deal with.