Once I pick a topic to blog about, I don’t look back- I just figure out a way to write and just write it. This topic is a little different-I’ve actually pushed this idea off a few times- I know there’s a point I’m trying to make, but I’m not sure what it is.
But- because I never give up, and once I get an idea in my head I have to keep pushing through. Passionate? Stubborn? I’ll let you decide which…
A few months ago I went to the gym. As one does, when I came back I was hot and sweaty and my muscles were a bit fatigued. I walked into the air conditioned lobby of my building and drank my water as I waited for the elevator. A mother and daughter (about two) stood beside me waiting for the elevator. When the doors opened, the mother and daughter got on the elevator. When I tried to enter, the little girl screamed no and actually tried to push me off the elevator, hitting me. She continued to throw a tantrum screaming no no no.
The Mother was embarrassed and did all the mother things we do when our offspring behave in an inappropriate way. She apologized to me, tried to get the child to apologize. the whole deal.
The whole thing left me a little uneasy. I’ve seen kids misbehave. All kids misbehave. All kids do things we wish they didn’t. I understand testing limits- it’s what kids are supposed to do.
But- this didn’t seem quite like that. This seemed different. This seemed more troubling.
So- my question is: how do we know what is acceptable bad behavior, and how do we know when bad behavior is hiding something bigger? Was this an appropriate two year old tantrum, or is something going on in this kids life/mind that is should be evaluated?
As parents, as bystanders…how do we know?
What do we do?