I read and subscribe to a lot of blogs.  This has been an unexpected pleasure of becoming a blogger- meeting people from all over the world. A           nd I enjoy reading blogs, but sometimes it gets hard, like when I was sick.  I wasn’t really reading much, except for a few light reads, so I’m playing catch up on blog reading.

Boy- WordPress does not make it easy to catch up on blogs.  Reader doesn’t include all the posts you subscribe to on a good day, much less weeks.  So I read some blogs on email (trust me- this is not a good method for me.  I currently have 65m unopened emails in my waking account.  I’m going to have to open up an email for people who are trying to reach me directly- sorry to all of you who have tried to reach me and have not received an answer) I tried searching blog names and reading blogs that way.  Again, this was not easy because you really need to have exact blog name and such in order to find it.  This was frustrating- I mean G Sandwich shouldn’t be that hard to search for…Then, if someone liked or commented on my blog, I would go back to look at their posts that way.  This was probably the best way to scroll the archives, except for the amount of times I unfollowed someone accidentally because I hit the unfollow button instead of the blog name.  Then, because it’s WordPress, I would have trouble refollowing them.  Sorry Muddling and Nana for the confusion, but I finally got you guys back on track. Side note: you have no idea how many times I read Part 6 before I read parts 1-5…

I also have this weird “fairness” thing going on in my head:  I would only read one blog from one reader at a time.  I thought it was “fair” to try to read as many of my friends as possible.  This is one of my OCD type tendencies- to get locked into a particular mindset.

But lets skip to another blog aspect: people that want you to read their blogs and follow them.  I used to do the quid pro quo thing when it came to blog follow: if someone followed me, I followed them.  I remember what it was like to be a beginning blogger and not have anyone following me- I’m willing to give anyone a chance. But then I realized that many of these blogs would get me to follow them and then unfollow me.  I mean really.  Not everyone can be as stupid as I am and keep unfollowing people as I try to read them.  So I stopped following people blindly.

Skipping again.  What about the different types of people that follow your blog?  Now, as I’m a “middle aged”, married Mom who wants to be a writer, i get all of the people that check off at least one of those boxes.  But as I am more than that, I understand followers that are cooks, organized, minimalist, movie fans, readers, photographers- because theses are all my hobbies.  And honestly, if a twenty something guy from India wants to follow me- well fine.  Maybe he has some of my interests.  But recently, a blog promoting Pilipino Women as being the best brides found it’s way to my blog.  They liked my post  about my new planner and chose to follow me.  Now, I guess if you’re in the mail order bride business you need a good planner, but I don’t know if you need to follow me, especially with my views on relationships…

And them there’s everyone’s favorite: the people who add to your comments- “Please follow me at http://www.ithinkthisisthebestwaytoattractfollowers.wordpress.com”.  For the record, if one of you reads this post before you like it and add this message, I will report you as spam if you do this to me, because as far as I’m concerned, this is SPAM.  You neither like me or my post- Do you know how to get followers?  Write well.  End of story.

Take aways?

  1. I’m still catching up on Don’t feel bad if I missed something.  I’m getting there.
  2. Don’t follow me and them unfollow me
  3. Don’t ask me to read your blog without giving me a compelling reason for me to read it

102 thoughts on “Sorry- It’s About Blogging

  1. [ Smiles ] Oh, you mean well. It appears as though you have subscribed to too many blogs and as a result, you are unable to visit them all.

    In my case, I only subscribe to blogs that I know that I am able to visit.

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  2. Oh oooh… I do the follow and possible unfollow because I see no other way to find out what somebodies blog is all about. And because, as you said, if you find something which looks nice it is difficult to find these blogs back.
    And yes to the ‘pushing the wrong button’ – that happened to me too.
    By the way, if you go to ‘My Site’ (upper left corner) and in the next screen select ‘Followers’ in the upper right corner you can remove the ‘ithinkthisisthebestwaytoattractfollowers’ people.
    The blogopshere I come from, with the main subject being ‘addiction’ it is can be very scary when somebodies blog disappears or comments or likes are not placed. People disappearing usually means they are back on the sauce. 😦 That is tough.
    I like likes and followers, but I do not write for likes, that is dangerous in my subject group, it easily turns into another way of ‘keeping up appearances while drowning’. I do not really have that in me anyhow. But I guess that is a little superfluous to mention. 😉
    Wishing you good blogging and truthfull followers. 🙂
    xx, Feeling

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    1. 😀the biggest problem is that there are so many great blogs!! And I know what you mean…you need to follow someone when you discover them because otherwise you might never see them again!!

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  3. Blog posts are a bit ephemeral, here today, forgotten tomorrow. Perhaps that’s a good thing. We live in a world of communication super-abundance. I subscribe to blogs that I know I will enjoy reading on a rainy Sunday or whenever life hands me some time. Yours is one. 🙂 If I can’t get to every one, oh, okay. Next one is coming, most likely. It is okay to be an occasional reader. 🙂

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  4. I follow and read a mix of people because I enjoy the different perspectives. I can’t comment on all but keep reading and comment on some each day. Hard to find the balance sometimes

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  5. I feel better after reading your rant so I hope you do, too! I think it’s fun following blogs like your own, but also having a few that may not generally interest you. I know I don’t fall under your general umbrella for audience, but it’s still nice to hear your reflections. And hey, I relate to you in different ways! I hate when someone is like “oh, nice read, now will you follow me and give me advice, good or bad…” because it’s obnoxious, it’s not polite, and it makes me feel weird/obligated. But I had to put my foot down on that fast so that way I’m not overwhelming myself with trying to feel “polite.” ~Kelsey

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  6. One way to keep my reader clutter free is to seriously only follow those blogs who add value or inspiration to my blogging in some way. I have yet to unfollow someone but I’m close to unfollowing one blogger because I’m just fatigued by the repetitive downer posts. But I haven’t yet…partly, because I understand that sometimes you sink into a hole and blogging is the only outlet you feel you have. I can always skip over her blogs if it looks like they will depress me. Know what I mean?

    I tend to give people a chance even when their blog, which I chose to follow, makes a turn toward something I don’t want to follow anymore. But I have limits, too. And, I don’t have thousands of followers so I can still be pretty picky. Doesn’t mean I won’t unfollow, but I will give a chance.

    And I have some very young people following me which probably means they click without thinking much. Pretty sure they just want numbers on their blogs. I’m not like that.

    Bottom line, dialogue. I love the dialogue. 🙂

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    1. I know exactly what you mean. I can’t unfollow someone who is sad because like you say, they have no other outlet sometimes, and I feel if I listen maybe I can help, because if you can help one person… my problem is there are so many great blogs, with so many great thoughts. The best way to learn and grow is to listen to others and dialogue!!!

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  7. You’re good with me. I’ve no qualms one way or another. I get it. Completely get it. I have a full time job. A whole family to take care of. I don’t sleep as it is. I don’t have time to read everyone and write and do all the other stuff I have to do.

    I do try to catch up. Sometimes it is just not possible.

    Thanks for visiting fiction when you’re able. No worries here, I’m not going anywhere. 😉

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  8. I agree with just about everything you’ve written here. I follow way too many blogs too but it’s not because I follow everyone who follows me (for the same reasons you listed), there’s just a lot of interesting blogs out there. Having said that, if I follow a blog because a post of theirs resonated with me, only to find out that most of what they write isn’t interesting, I will unfollow. Another thing I’ve experienced lately is I’ve gotten a whole series of “likes” boom-boom-boom which clearly indicate the person didn’t read each post. I’m not sure what the point of that is.

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    1. There sure are a lot of interesting blogs out there!! I follow many myself. But I wanted to share something regarding consecutive LIKES that you might appreciate.

      Bloggers can LIKE posts in succession, actually having read them all, here’s how:

      I have my subscriptions set to immediately, daily or weekly, according to the particular blogger. For those set to daily or weekly, numerous posts can come through in one email in consecutive order. Therefore, I can read all of the posts in that one email and then go back and LIKE them one at a time, seemingly all at once.

      So, although it might appear that a blogger is just liking posts without reading them, and I’m sure this is the case sometimes or even many times, posts can actually be read consecutively and then LIKED afterwards. I do this myself. Even for Wakinguponthewrongsideof50 at times. 😉 I hope I relayed this understandably. And I enjoyed your comment. 😊

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      1. Thanks for this info! I have noticed that most of the multiple likes I get are from people that don’t appear to be anyone my blog would interest (and haven’t liked a post before or after). In addition, the likes are for posts spanning weeks, if not months. But, based on your example, I won’t dismiss them out of hand.

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      2. Oh yes, those. 🙄 I get those too. I click on their profile and view some of their posts and I’m like, huh? Why are they liking my posts that seem to have nothing in common with their own? 🤦🏽‍♀️ I see what you’re saying, and you’re absolutely correct. And then it’s poof….I never see them again. 😡
        Thanks for your kind response and clarification. 😊

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  9. I have a lot on this. I dont think Ive ever gone to anyones page who asked. More times then not i just find new people i like to read then eventually we just follow each other if its meant to be. I never put the “follow me” messages through either. They mean nothing. Also? If i meet someone on my page and get to know them a particular way…then I find their page is way out in left field from how i know them to be, all sex and online dating for example, or *extremely* negative. I just won’t read it. And thats caused some offense. Just the other day I was making an example of the people who come out of the woodwork and glom onto 3 or so posts in a row, and i think oh thats nice. Then they disappear never to like or comment again…after ive followed them. Then i see they have 5000 followers and are basically just posting “how to get more followers” posts. And also I think my comments must get spammed a lot (or something) cause its pretty rare that my comments about dogs or anxiety or kids actually make it through to someone Ive just started reading. Oh!….and the follows without ever reading a thing. Yay.

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    1. Omg , the how to get more followers posts. Really…is there a contest I don’t know about? Who cares how many followers you have if your content is crap. Blogging should be about sharing either personal thoughts or interesting info. If you’re not reading it it doesn’t matter. Why would anyone do anything just to get more likes? Is self esteem so low?

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      1. And when I see the content is indeed crap, I wonder…are all the followers that desperate to have their face out there that they aren’t seeing it’s just crap! 😂

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  10. I enjoyed reading this blog and love to follow your blog. For me, it depends on my schedule which is busier in the fall and winter. I have more time during the summer but periodically I unfollow people if it becomes overwhelming. I am all about control. Right now I have too many self-help blogs I have been following and the advice is overwhelming. Sometimes you just have to live the life and do the best you can! Thanks for listening.

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  11. I’ve been gone for a while and have just tried to step back in (which seems to be my MO of blogging) — so it’s apropos that THIS is the first blog I’ve read in a long while. Truth is — life and the world at large have overwhelmed me lately but as soon as I read the line about the mail-order brides, I knew I’ve been missing so much!

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    1. Omg…when I saw the mail order bride site that followed me!! I’ll give everyone at least one read, but when I got to the blog and started thumbing through the posts….I just laughed!!

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  12. When someone follows me I go back to their pages and read as many of their entries as possible to see if they might bring something to my life. The things that bother me are the people that follow me that are businesses with no real blog, just fishing for customers. I mean really do I think they have followed me because they connected with my rant on supermarkets?! I am not in the position of having a lot of followers but I would like to think that the majority of my followers do actually want to read my thoughts.

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  13. Spot on. Nobody expects you to have time to read everything. I follow blogs that interest me, and some of them follow me, too. That’s nice, because then we have an ongoing dialogue. But I follow blogs that don’t follow me, too. I have only unfollowed if the subjects no longer interest me, or because, honestly, some are posting so many times a day that it clogs my reader and I don’t see the posts I really want to catch. I mean, really, who needs to post 10 times a day??!! Get a life.

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  14. Agree! When I get a notice that someone new has followed me I look to see if they are of the spammy version or if their content is something I am interested in. If not, I remove them from my followers. I only follow people who have content interesting to me. It can get VERY overwhelming and I don’t always go to the “Reader” because just my emails gets me sometimes 40 a day. Numbers are nice but it is not my sole purpose for blogging.

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  15. Amen x infinity!
    I love to read your thought process. I’m amused because we’re so similar in the way we think.
    Sometimes I’ll read a couple posts that speak to me then think, ooh! Imma follow this blog! But once I do, I realize it’s not quite what I expected based on those couple of posts. Then guilt kicks in. Do I unfollow? Do I just choose not to read?
    I choose not to receive blog post emails from the sites I follow because that’s just too much in my mailbox. I try and read the blogs I follow each day, my ritual is to read before I get out of bed in the morning.
    It’s a slippery slope to follow everyone that follows you. Some of the blogs that follow me just don’t resonate with me when I read them. So while I may be flattered my words move them, I don’t feel as though I should return follow out of obligation. I only have so much time to read, I want to read what moves me.
    I love getting to know other bloggers! I’m so pleased I blog and read blogs! That my words are meaningful to others, and that I can find meaning in the words of others.

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    1. Omg, my thought process!! One day I hope to figure out my thought process!! I’ve done the s@me thing…you read something you th8nk will be great and resonates and realize what you read was a one off. Mostly I keep following though, unless they annoy me!!

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  16. Don’t feel bad about being over 50 and finding it hard to multi task like the younger gens and N get Nithing done!!! I am guessing the Midwest would be a nice change for all of us as the boarder could change soon. I got the Eastern boarder of MN the St Croix. Happy paddling to all us old folks who can’t or won’t keep up with the techies. More power for our trees and waters. Love and Peace from MN!!!

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  17. Do you know how to get followers? Write well. End of story. AMEN!!!
    Lol.
    I’m looking for interaction at this point. A follow and random likes not so much. Let’s chat, just a little. I’m not in this for the numbers alone. I’ve genuine enjoyed meeting new people.
    As for catching up… well… I don’t even know how easy that is as I get incredibly flustered after just 2 days of not actively following up.

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  18. One of my biggest peeves with blogging is what I call the spam likers/followers. They are those that are just businesses or have a site that is literally covered in ads and will go and like the latest posts or follow whatever blogger they come across all in an attempt to get a link back to their site. I will admit, I’m picky about who I follow because the people I do follow, I genuinely want to see what they are posting about and I don’t want my feed clogged with a bunch of stuff I’m not interested in. That probably keeps my follower count small, but I’d rather have those few that are just as interested in what I’ve posted as I am in theirs.

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    1. The businesses kill me. Why would I want to follow someone who is a martial arts school in another part of the country? It’s not like I’m going to help out their foot traffic. And numbers don’t really mean anything in these sc3narios…any analyst will tell you that…

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  19. A former co-worker was visiting us and commented how time-consuming it must be to write a blog. I responded it isn’t the writing at all — it’s the following of other bloggers! I feel guilty sometimes when I pick up a book or magazine because I know there are other bloggers’ posts to read. Ah, good ‘ol First World problems. 😉 – Marty

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  20. I have read your post and all the comments with great interest. There’s so much going on here! Why do we all treat the reading of blogs so personally? I will be thinking about this for quite some time, so thank you!

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  21. I used to always follow everyone who followed me but that started getting to be to much so I started to only follow people who post stuff in interested in. Also every now and then I will go through the blogs that I have followed and if they haven’t posted in months without any mentions of taking a break I will unfollow. I agree with you that you shouldn’t comment on someone’s post saying give me a follow or check out my blog. Usually if people do that to me I ignore them unless they give me a reason to check it out like if they say something like I did a post just like this on my blog etc.

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    1. One of these days I’m going to go through and delete people who hAvent written in months, just to keep things clean. I wish there was a way to highlight favorite blogs verses blogs I only read sometimes, so it would be easier when life gets crazy

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  22. I have gotten a few of those following my blog too. The strangest ones are the ones that follow you and then when you go into their blog there is nothing there.:) It’s been deleted. I thought to myself at some point what in the world is going on here1! Now, I only follow blogs that interest me…:)

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  23. Agree with you on all points. My biggest pet peeve is people who like something when I know they couldn’t possibly have read it yet. It’s easy to press a like button, but meaningless if you haven’t read it. You know, and so does the blogger. I think we all just want positive feedback, to know that our words have resonated with people and they can relate in some way. Thanks, BTW, for the mention in your post. I knew there was a good reason I named it thegsandwich. So easy to remember. 🙂

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    1. Your blog title is so easy to remember! I don’t get the random likes. I mean I do, but I don’t. Especially on personal blogs…I love reading all different thoughts and ideas. Alas…just too many!

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  24. I’m ashamed to admit that I never did read all of the posts that accumulated in my inbox during my recent illness. I tried, but I was overwhelmed. And I’m still not 100%, so some posts were deleted. I felt bad, but it was stressing me out. I don’t think I deleted yours, though, but I might’ve skimmed over them more quickly than I should have.

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  25. Comments that include links go to spam – this is something that I have been following for quite a while now. People blindly follow and leave a link in the comment section “Nice post. Follow my blog.” – I have received comments like these. Then there are few super fast readers who can read 10 posts of 1000 thousand words each in less than a minute. 😉 Do I have to say more? 😉
    I do not subscribe to blogs so I really cannot comment on that. Sometimes I feel I am way too choosy when it comes to following bloggers, but then it is much better than filling the reader with spams, isn’t it? 🙂

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    1. It’s way better to be choosy! Life is too short!! But I get your sentiments exactly! Problem is…there really are so many interesting, cool blogs!

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    1. I’m only starting to be pickier. I felt bad for awhile cause I know how hard it is when you’re a beginning blogger, but I can’t anymore!

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  26. Every once in a while I’ll get someone who’ll leave a comment with a “follow me, follow me, follow me” link at the bottom of their comment. It doesn’t happen very often, so I’ve never thought of it as spam. Of course if by chance their comment never makes it through moderation onto my blog… hmmm, oh well! Things happen.

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  27. It’s very hard to keep up with all the blogs. I don’t think I have ever gotten a message to follow someone. But I would give them a chance. I too want to be a writer. I enjoy reading what everybody has and the information I can get from them to make useful in my own life.

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  28. Boy, can I relate to this post! It seems to me that WordPress is always changing things that were working just fine, and with each change, it’s just a little bit harder to blog and read other blogs.
    I used to follow blogs that followed me as well, but it got to be too much. Now I only follow blogs that I find truly interesting, or occasionally when I can tell someone is just starting out and really needs those “follows.” I still “like” a post from a blogger who liked one of my posts, but that’s very time consuming so I don’t know if I’ll keep it up forever. And I never like or follow bloggers who “like” ten of my posts at the exact same time (I get email notifications, so I can tell) or are written in a language I can’t read. Or is they’re just a business selling a product.
    BTW, how do you know when someone was unfollowed you? I only realized there had been a problem when I saw that you had followed me again. When a regular reader stops liking or commenting on my blog, I tend to assume they are just busy or on vacation…. But I never really do know!

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  29. Fantastic straight forward, honest post with good points on the follow to follow subject. I think people learn through experience and after having blogged for quite some time. I know it’s true for me. Thanks for the down-to-earth, nice read. 🙂

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  30. Hey there! I definitely find it somewhat overwhelming when discovering new blogs because there’s so much exceptionally good quality content out there yet it’s impossible to keep up with every blogger I admire! Thank you for such an honest post.

    Sending you good vibes!

    Nati x | http://www.lifeaftercoffeeblog.com | @NAfterCoffee

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  31. I love your blog! You have such a humorous and honest way of writing. 🙂 So glad to reconnect with you. I hope you catch up on reading with grace, ease, and lots of joy. Have a beautiful fourth of July holiday. Blessings, Debbie

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  32. 😂haha! Number three on your list always bugs me too! Why would you bother to leave a comment on someones blog and ask them to follow you, and they didn’t even look at the post you wrote? Instagram is worse about this. So many people, who have 56k followers will follow me. I look at their profile and they are only following 102 accounts! So, I know that as soon as I hit “follow back”, they will dump me. 😞. I only follow accounts and blogs that I am truly interested in. Just easier that way💕

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