Ok. I have a confession to make. I really don’t think that all men sexually harass women. And to go even further, I think that men often get blamed for everything that goes wrong, and that’s blatantly unfair. (now- if it’s my husband we’re talking about, he probably should be blamed…remind me sometime to tell you the story of the kitchen floor)
So there you have it.
Why, you ask, did I say that the other day?
Because, sometimes you have to make a grandiose statement in order to get people to pay attention.
Because sometimes there’s a problem that everyone needs to work on in order to solve it.
Who is getting harassed, who is doing the harassing….it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that it stops. And whether you want to call it harassment, or bullying…..it’s the same thing- People disrespecting one another- People watching others get disrespected and not doing anything about it. People not thinking about what their words and actions actually mean.
So how do we stop harassment?
How do we stop bullying?
How do we stop disrespect?
I try to be the best person I can. I try to model reasonable behavior so my daughter understands how to treat others. I will say something to family members if I feel they are doing/saying something stupid (and if you knew my family you would know exactly how time consuming this is) But I’m human, and I’m not always nice, and I’m not always respectful (especially to customer service representatives- I’m sure there are a few dart boards with my picture on them)
But back to the big picture. We’re reasonably intelligent people (come on- you read my blog, so that makes you a connoisseur of the finer things) and I know we are teavhibg and modeling respect….but is that enough? Because frankly, it’s not working. Take Back the Night began like 40 years ago….have rape and domestic violence stopped or decreased? No….they haven’t. Let’s think this out- how do we stop harassment?