Once upon a time, there lived a Queen who tended to react quickly. A subject would say something, and the Queen would just start incoherently rambling- and these statements were not always Queenlike…….See, the Queen was not good at thinking before she spoke. What she excelled at was over-reacting. This got the Queen into a lot of trouble, because we all know words often hurt more than anything, and words said in the course of over-reacting……Oh- they could be ugly.
As the Queen got older, she realized that she should really try to control her tongue. Yelling at people and saying long, rambling mean statements was probably not in her best interest. So she began a quest to tame her quick responses- she would try to hold her tongue for 5 minutes before she said anything. Now, she realized that this might mean cutting her tongue out- but if that was the price she had to pay to be a better person, so be it. And think of all the good customer service experience she might get if she was just a tad less quick to judge the level of their competence…….
The Queen was taking baby steps. She tried really, really hard at not spewing venom. Luckily, nothing had broken in the royal apartment, so she had little interaction with service representatives. She still freaked out at her Mother- but if you heard the ridiculous things her Mother said, even someone taking a vow of silence would not be able to hold back.
One day, the royal family was eating dinner. The Queen and the Princess got into a rather heated debate about PSAT preparation and books. No- they did not argue about studying in general- the Princess is extremely studious. The argument centered around the quality of the review books- Princess felt the review book in hand was inferior, and the Queen said to just finish the present book and then they would buy another.
What happens when two strong willed women argue?
The Princess used some not very Princess -like language at the Queen.
The Queen was not amused- but she took a deep breath. She got up and began clearing plates. (this was a sign- the Queen did not call to the servants to take away the debris from dinner- she did it herself) The Queen then started cleaning up the kitchen. She did not utter a word.
After about 3 minutes, the Princess went and hugged the Queen. She apologized. A true, honest apology.
So what did the Queen realize?
- The Queen would have made the situation a lot worse by yelling or saying mean things
- The Princess does not normally act in this manner- this was an anomaly
- The Princess is stressed about standardized tests- if saying a not so nice word is her way of blowing off steam, the Queen is OK with it, because there are far more destructive ways to blow off steam
- The argument was about PSAT books
- The Queen/Princess dynamic is a tough one- the boundaries are always being tested
The Queen begrudgingly admits she’s not perfect…..and knows she will never be perfect. She just wants to be a slightly better person.