My blogs are usually inspired by events in my life. Last week I wrote a blog exposing both my shyness and fear of commenting- two things I continually work at overcoming. It was something I wanted to share, and I felt spurred on by two things, my pact with another blogger to make more meaningful commentary that wasn’t self serving at least once a month, and the other is the story I am about to reveal.
I read a lot of blogs. These blogs cover many topics- personal narrative, flash fiction, poetry, photography, organizing, food, reviews, and a whole lot more. I do not care about the actual personal details of a persons life. What do I mean? I follow people regardless of religion, nationality, gender, sexual orientation, socio economic status, political leanings or anything else that may separate people into groups or factions.
So how do I choose the bloggers that I will follow/read/like? I choose the bloggers who are excellent at telling their story. These bloggers are honest and passionate. These bloggers inspire me to be a better person. They share their opinions in a thoughtful and thought provoking manner. They make me think about things in a way I never thought of before. They help me grow, and expand my knowledge base. If I follow/read/like your blogs, these are the reasons.
Now- for the record- I do not always agree with the opinions that are presented. I may not follow the same life path. But these things do not matter to me. I would be a pretty shallow person if I only read things that I am, or already believe in. In my “About” section, I state that I am a “work in progress”. My goal in the second half of my life is to keep growing and learning.
So here’s the story.
I follow a blog that is written by a devout Christian. I commented on the blog last week, sharing my opinion. The blogger responded back with a perfectly reasonable comment. But then, a third party entered the picture, “respectfully” attacking me verbally about a life style choice I made, basically saying that this choice made me insignificant. The interloper also made a statement to me….”I hate when evangelical westerners….” So I responded, as nicely as I could, especially as it wasn’t my blog, “Please don’t attack the lifestyle I choose to live as it doesn’t hinder on your life. And what in my statement makes you think I’m an evangelical?” Blogger responded back “I assumed…..” Well yeah, it’s pretty obvious I’m from a Western as opposed to Eastern based – but where do you get Evangelical? (and there is nothing wrong with any religion, but don’t assume what I am or an not, especially as I’m not Evangelical, nor have I ever been) And the blogger didn’t respond back.
Now I’m not Sherlock, but I could see that this blogger went into my archives and read my “about” and my last ten posts. Big surprise. I talk about everything, and share my opinions about a lot of things, but I’m guessing she could find no clue as to my religion, unless she found the one comment I make with another blogger about Catholic guilt (OK- the Catholic is out of the bag)
So being the mature person I am, I decided to look at this person’s blog- you know- tit for tat. Guess what? No blog. Nothing but a user name.
So is there a point?
- Don’t comment on a blog because you have an agenda. If you hate a group, don’t seek out their blogs and personally attack them, and their commenters. If that’s really going to make you feel better, I’m going to suggest trying a bowl of chicken soup, or a massage, or just some quiet meditation.
- Don’t assume anything about anyone (Does anyone remember “The Odd Couple” ass u me?) Accept what the blogger writes, and work with that. Anything else is conjecture. You can’t build a something if the base doesn’t exist.
- Don’t criticize anyone’s lifestyle- how they choose to live their life is their business (assuming it is not harmful or hurtful to anyone- you know I mean within acceptable guidelines)
And that’s my PSA for the day. I’m off to do shallow things and not think about anyone other than myself……..