My daughter attended a music festival this past weekend.  I had a few things I needed to tell her, so I tattooed the following to her arm:

  1. Don’t eat anything you don’t see being prepared
  2. Don’t drink anything anyone hands you
  3. If you put your drink down, don’t drink it again
  4. Stay with your friends- even if someone meets a cute guy, follow them
  5. If you’re crowd surfing, don’t let anyone drop you
  6. Unless Chance the Rapper actually invites you, don’t jump onto the stage
  7. Make sure your friend with the peanut allergy doesn’t eat nuts- and know where her epipen is
  8. If something doesn’t seem right, trust your instincts
  9. Don’t get arrested
  10. Text me when you get there
  11. Text me when you’re leaving
  12. Text me how you’re getting home
  13. If you’re taking a cab, text me car and driver info
  14. Make sure the drivers picture matches the driver

As her flower clad head walked away from me, I yelled, “Have FUN!!!”

She looked at me- as if to say, “Really?”

What she didn’t realize is that what I wanted to say was:

  1. I think you’re growing up to be an amazing young woman
  2. My instinct is always going to be to protect you- even though I know I can’t
  3. You are a good friend, and you’ve chosen your friends wisely.  They have your back, and you have theirs. I sleep better at night knowing your friends are somewhat mature and responsible
  4. I want you to be safe, but I know that’s mostly out of my control, so I want you to take calculated risks
  5. I don’t want you to be heart broken but I know you need to have your heart broken because it means you put your heart on the line- and that’s part of living a full life
  6. I love when you go to concerts and amusement parks and shopping and whatever else you do with your friends.  You work so hard at school and extracurriculars, and you need to be social and have fun and blow off steam
  7. I will always worry about you, no matter how old you are
  8. I love you so much, and I just want you to live a full life, in whatever guise that is for you
  9. You will only live here full time for two more years.  I will miss having a cup of tea with you before you go to bed, and recounting our days.

When she walked in the door last night, glitter on her smiling face, I asked how it was:

“We all agreed- the best three days of our lives.”

And I exhaled.  She was home, exhausted but exhilarated.  And I made a pot of tea.

 

6 thoughts on “Remember: Have Fun!

  1. Oh I completely love this! Your blog touched my heart. You sound like a fantastic mom, with a whole lot of caring for your daughter. 🙂

    Thanks for following my blog. I am so happy to connect with you!! Blessings, Debbie
    ps – your About page is great. It made me smile.

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  2. My daughter Katie attends a 3-day music festival every June – I worry a little, but to her this festival is life-changing. I can’t begrudge her that kind of experience.

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